Awareness. First, become aware of your feelings. What sensations and emotions are going on inside you? Are you uncomfortable, doubtful, upset, peeved, frustrated, or angry? Try to give voice to the actual feelings you are encountering.
Acceptance. Let the unwanted feeling rise to the surface of your awareness. Feel it completely – don’t push it back into your subconscious. Be aware of the feeling and accept it. Tell yourself, just as if you were counseling a friend, that it’s okay to have that feeling.
Let Go. Finally, let go! Let go of the unwanted feelings and energy. Let them flow out of your body. Visualize the negative feelings leaving you by creating an image of that release. For example, you may want to picture a teakettle letting off steam, or a water dam breaking and the water gushing over the edge. I like to picture a funny cartoon character exploding like in a Roadrunner cartoon. Use whatever works for you to completely release the negative feelings you have.
Go through this exercise as many times as you need to to fully release the negative feelings. You will probably find that each time you go through it, the negative feelings will lessen a little bit more.
If you practice the exercise whenever you feel tense and impatient, it will become easier to let go of the negative feelings quickly. Eventually, you won’t even have to go through the steps consciously, and will instead jump right to your release visual.
Excerpted from Living Large for God: Developing Patience and Perseverance in an Impatient World, available from Amazon.com in paperback and as a Kindle download.